Did you ever wake up one morning thinking about something you wish would change dramatically in the world? For the past couple mornings I’ve had something on my mind involving a subject that has been near and dear to me since my middle school days. For those who have followed my blog and/or my Twitter feed for some time know that supporting women is a social cause I’m passionate about. I grew up around women all my life and learned all that I ever needed to know about being an ally to women and women’s rights. It’s with this passion for supporting women that I thought: How great it would be if the world came to its senses and became a more empowering place for women?
Now some may say, “Wait, hold up. Hasn’t the world already evolved and become more supportive of women?” While some areas of society have seen noticeable (but slow) improvement over the years, the scary reality is..society does — and always will — find more ways to restrict, demean, harass women. It’s both horrifying and sickening the outrageous pressures society puts onto women: What dress size she needs to be beautiful, how she must be married and have children or she’s a failure, how she can’t have both a career and family, the list just goes on. And that’s not all, some people in society seem to glorify men who push women around with horrible sexism as if they’re some “hero of masculinity.” It makes me absolutely sick.
A few years ago I personally witnessed a guy (whom I’ll call John Doe) sexually harass a girl (Jane Somebody) right in front of me. It was only then when I told him to take a hike and called him out that he angrily said “It’s the truth, dude!” While much of the verbal abuse John Doe directed towards Jane Somebody is too graphic and unsettling for me to repeat, I knew right then and there the world had not yet progressed from its misogynistic ways towards women. I understand not all men are like this towards women, but I will always have a hard time believing men who say they support women & women’s equality when they contribute to discrimination and sexism towards women. To those men who genuinely support women, myself and the world thanks you. You are a true man.
Like many other supporters of women I’m fed up with society giving free passes to sexism while disrespecting women at the same time as if everything is “the woman’s fault.” How would they feel if it was their wife, girlfriend, daughter, granddaughter or niece on the receiving end of some jerk’s abuse? They’d probably want to knock his teeth out. But as far as standing up for other women? Forget about it. It’s because their own backwards, distorted truths about women seem to leave them without the balls to show sensitivity to stand up for women. The scary thing is to some of these people, women are only good for sex and deserve being put in her place (basically the old-fashioned “barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” mentality I despise with a passion). I don’t care who you are and/or if you’re a friend of mine, physical or verbal harassment towards any woman is never, ever acceptable whatsoever. There’s a reason I’ve permanently ended friendships from a grocery list of people over the years.
With that, If I could visualize the perfect world, it would be one where women of all shapes, sizes, sexual orientations, and socioeconomic levels could wake up, go out and not be afraid of being judged for her looks or lifestyle choices. A world where women could walk into her dream job, whether it be mechanic, astronaut, CEO, software developer, etc and be celebrated for her achievements and promoted equally — free of discrimination or harassment. A world where a woman’s opinion is highly valued and not shot down because “she’s just a woman.” A world where women would be reminded that “You are beautiful just as you are!” And above all, a world where society treats women as a human being with feelings and brilliant ideas instead as just some pervert’s sexual fantasy. In a sense, I’d love to see a world where women can just be herself and express herself freely. That is all I ask. Is that so hard for the world to accommodate? Because after all, this is not just a “man’s world,” this is a world for women too.